Have fun with your collection of Ghostly Jedi Father Figures.” I dated a Darth Vader, who is listed in my cell phone literally as “Darth Vader Do Not Answer.” My friends were very overt in their (totally correct) disapproval of the time I spent with this intergalactic sociopath.
They would audibly groan and roll their eyes and leave the room if I answered a call or a text from him or brought up his name.
I’m going to assume that you’re a grounded, healthy, regular person.
So when someone says “You’re the only person who really understands me” to you on the second date, you panic.
He has a lot of expectations for how my friend should be that makes me think he doesn’t really “see” my friend clearly and accept who he is.
For example, the two of them went on a long bike trip together, and it took longer than this guy expected because my friend is not as in-shape and had to work harder to keep up, so the partner got upset that things were taking so long.
So do I….except for when I was completely high on being intertwined with who I thought was the First Person To Really Get Me, Too, and then had to spend a year of my life in Love’s Methadone Clinic.