The key is to remind yourself of the choice you have and remember God will not tempt you beyond your ability to resist: Bergoglio: When I was a seminarian, I was dazzled by a girl I met at an uncle’s wedding. When I returned to the seminary after the wedding, I could not pray for over a week because when I tried to do so, the girl appeared in my head. I was still free because I was a seminarian, so I could have gone back home and that was it. I chose again – or let myself be chosen by – the religious path.
I was surprised by her beauty, her intellectual brilliance… It would be abnormal for this kind of thing not to happen ( When we resist temtations, especially sexual temptation, it’s like reaching a new level of being human.
Maybe that is exactly why God wants me to write this, as a reminder to myself why this is so important. Yes, he knew about them, in fact he met them a few times.
Especially after the one that lasted almost a year, ended because he didn't want to be around my kids.
Each time you make the choice to be chaste and resist the temptation, your level of spirituality and maturity is upgraded with powerful virtues and graces that fortify you for the next temptations that will come.
So, have no fear about stepping off the cliff and taking that leap of faith.
After seven years of intense struggle, spiritual growth, personal triumphs, and finally remarriage in the church and the birth of three miracle children, her one desire was to help others who were suffering find hope and healing.