If you are not wet down there, sex will get extremely painful.
Some people also try lubricants to ensure better penetration.
Something as simple as "I'm going to let go," will suffice. Although some couples enjoy having raunchy sex, you'd be wise to talk to your partner before you engage in such behaviour.
Nevertheless, it is highly recommended that you make an effort to kiss your partner during the act - it will only add to the experience. Biting before your partner's ready While many people enjoy an aggressive partner, biting any part of their body before they are aroused may lead to pain and discomfort (and might even lessen the chances of any further action ) or simply scare them off.
So make sure your partner is fully excited before you bite their ear, shoulders, neck or any other part of their body. Ignoring everything but sexualised parts Genitals are great, no doubt, but you should definitely pay attention to other parts of your lover's body and focus for some time on their entire body - knees, wrists, back and stomach are highly erogenous zones for men as well as women.
Let's find out about various reasons why sex can hurt: 1) Fear of pain More than the pain, it is the fear of pain that makes first time sex uncomfortable.
There is a lot of hype around first time sex and that makes most women extra wary of the act.
Another way is to break the hymen by inserting a finger. 2) Fear of bleeding Women are often told that it is important for them to bleed during first time sex. It is not necessary for a woman to bleed during first time sex.